Sami Wunder is the CEO of a thriving multi-seven-figure business serving a global clientele of 150,000 followers across 90 countries, supporting doctors, lawyers, bankers, leading entrepreneurs, UK television stars and even a Hollywood celebrity. A leading relationship and dating expert, Sami Wunder specializes in working with high-achieving, ambitious women and helping them to attract lasting romantic love. This article will look at the fear of settling, a common theme for women with high self-worth that actually creates considerable scope for self-sabotage.
For single, career-driven women, it can be challenging to find the right man to build a happy relationship and beautiful family with. The fear of settling down with the wrong man can keep women single for years. In dating, the notion of accepting a man who is not an ideal partner is alarming, particularly for independent women seeking a high-caliber man.
It is important to appreciate that there is a huge difference between settling and having standards for the kind of partner that you want to attract. The fear of settling causes constant anxiety, potentially sabotaging an incredible relationship before it has even begun. We may fear committing to a man because, in the back of our mind, we wonder whether we can do better, irrespective of how well the man treats us. It is crucial to understand that this fear of settling is not always rooted in reality and is often a self-created anxiety.
High-achieving women are under constant pressure to do better. They have high standards, for themselves and everyone else. The fear of settling can manifest itself in a relentless pursuit for perfection, whereas in reality, perfection does not exist.
Fear of settling culminates in nitpicking and finding fault with every guy early on. This negative mindset leads to fear-based dating. While there is nothing wrong with having standards, fear-based rule creation – such as only dating men who share particular interests – narrows the dating pool considerably. By creating rules, women block men who do not meet those specific criteria, irrespective of how healthy and empowered that man is.
Successful women tend to be very wary of getting into the “wrong” relationship, fearful that connecting with the wrong person could ultimately pull them down. This leads them to look out for the worst all the time. Very often, fear of settling drives women to create a fantasy man in their head they compare with every man they meet. No man will ever live up to this vision of perfection, simply because he doesn’t exist. Indeed, often a devoted, loyal, and loving partner does not look remotely similar to anyone your imagination could conjure.
Fear of settling is essentially a mindset where you constantly look for the worst in your date. This makes you very guarded as you quietly watch for red flags, triggering anxiety and delaying finding the right man and a lasting, fulfilling relationship.
The good news is that fear of settling is a mindset that can be overcome, helping you to relax, open your heart, and allow intimacy to develop. Sami Wunder’s six-month Elevate live coaching program teaches participants valuable skills, as well as providing personalized support, enabling women to fast-track their way to forever love.
Other programs presented by Sami Wunder include Leap Into Love, providing 40+ hours of content and access to a private peer support community, and the Attract Your Soulmate advanced program, providing 7.5 hours of audio training to help participants master their mindset and attract love.
Sami Wunder’s company has served over 18,000 international clients to date, paving the way for the creation of more than 900 committed relationships since 2016. A leading authority on relationships and dating, Sami Wunder is a sought-after expert who appears regularly in the media, including features in Forbes, Time, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Business Insider and many more.
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